And why does that bother you? Why do you care?
Do you realize that liking a post does not necessarily mean caring about the
person?
Isn’t it scary? How your social life and
self-esteem is based on the most trivial things? You could be an A-class human
being and yet your confidence would depend on the number of likes your posts
get! You could have the right opinion but you would only value it if people agree
with it. You could have a remarkable sense of style, yet you would follow the
cliché. Why is that? Why do you need likes and comments and views to know where
you stand? To make you feel worthy. Why do you feel this need to be accepted by
the world? Why would the world ever accept you if you haven't done it yourself.
You need to know what defines you and what doesn't. You need to know that it's
okay if you don't have DSLR pictures to post or large squads to hang out with.
It's okay if you're not leading a society of your institute or being followed
on twitter by everyone. It’s okay if you're not participating in extra-curricular
or topping the class. It’s okay if you made mistakes more than once or had
fallouts. It's all okay if you define it as okay.
The day you define these things as not-okay
would be the day these things would start defining you. And these are not at
all the standards you should set for yourself. Large social circles don't
define your goodness. It's enough if you have just one friend and she thinks
you are awesome. Literally that's all you should need to feel confident. Don't
let your poise come from something as shallow as Facebook comments. They don't
last!
Let it come from things that matter. Let it
come from the unconditional love your parents will always shower on you. Let it
come from the prayers of someone you helped. Let it come from the ease your
friend feels in your company. Let it come from the gratitude of that person you
once helped smile when he was sad. Let it come from the glow of the girl you
just praised. Let it be enough. Life is harsh enough already without us trying
to set up a whole new virtual world on social media where we fake praises and
plaster smiles to pose in front of a world that may not even know us in reality.
Do whatever you do for yourself and for those who actually love you. Take
comfort in your own skin. It’s yours because it’s perfect for you. Explore
yourself instead of obsessing over what others think of you. Because other
people would come and go, leaving you shattered if you allow them. The only
constant in your life is you. Remember that the next time you give someone the power
to make you feel uncomfortable.
